I have done many book and eBook reviews over the past few months, I love to read as you can probably tell. Most of the times the authors themselves send me an email and ask me to check out their book/eBook and write up a review, all the authors I have had the pleasure to work with thus far have been wonderful and kind. When I was given the opportunity to review this book "Relationship Repair For Couples" by Stephanie Weiland Knarr, Ph.D I wasn't real sure what to expect, as a wife to my loving husband for over 5 years I know that any and every relationship can always use some work, we are never done working or learning when it comes to our marriages or relationships.
The first thing that stuck out to me was the fact that Stephanie took the time to write a letter and actually sign it. This is a major deal because so many times authors have stamps with their signatures that they use. Anyway the letter introduced her as well as her book, and it briefly went into details about the struggles she has faced these past few years, I must say I really enjoyed this letter because it gave me a foothold in a relationship with her, this letter made me feel as though I knew a little about this woman and could connect to her, this entire beginning made reading the book and connecting with the book much easier. I think it is important for us to realize the people who write the books we read are people like you and I, with struggles, trials, and tribulations and they still choose to write in order to educate and inform and even entertain others, what a selfless career. The other awesome thing I learned from watching her video on her website is that Stephanie is from Maryland which is only a few hours from me, I guess it makes me feel more connected to her as well. So, before I begin my actual review I have to say Thank you Stephanie for opening your heart and life to your readers, it was a pleasure learning a little about you.
Before reading the book you are asked to head over to her website and take a short quiz, this will assist you and your spouse on the journey to building a better relationship. Once you are ready to begin reading the book, might I suggest you and your partner have a weekly "meeting" about it. During the week each of you read the chapter and then pick a day to sit down and discuss it. I find this helps both my husband and I not only to make the time to read but also to have some alone time where we can connect on a regular weekly basis. With 3 almost 4 kids to care for plus jobs and all the other perks of adulthood sometimes we miss that before we were a family, we were a couple and our relationship is still very much alive and needs nurturing and tending to as well.
Stephanie takes the approach of we need a customer service counter or complaint desk in our relationships. A safe place where each person can go to the other and lay their feelings and issues on the counter to be discussed and find a resolution to them. The book is easy to follow because it is broken down into 10 chapters...They are the following...
* How may I serve you today?
* Where is your customer service counter?
* Service after the sale? Are you kidding me?
* I'd like to make a complaint
* Step right up to the relationship repair counter
* Whatever happens, no matter what, please do not jump over the relationship repair counter
* Ring the bell for relationship repair strategies
* Try before you buy: relationship repair during dating
* What if nobody listens? Breaking cycles of helplessness
* Problem solved: The joy of success at the relationship repair counter
Each chapter has vital information and wonderful ideas on how you can make your relationship better, while not all the strategies and ideas will work for everyone it can't hurt to try. I also think just by sitting down and laying it all out on the table and working through this book as a couple will certainly have a positive impact on your relationship. Stephanie makes mention about the divorce rate in America being so high and only continuing to climb each year, there really is no need for this. The lack of willingness to communication and compromise is one of the prime reasons for the increased rate, people are too quick to call it quits when things get difficult and yet did we not all promise through good times and bad times, sickness and health when we stood before our family and friends on our wedding day?
You really don't need to be having marriage or relationship problems to benefit from reading this book, you can benefit even if your relationships are in good standing, with the helpful information and encouraging words this is a good book just to read and tuck away on your shelf for those just in case times.
You can find Stephanie's book "Relationship Repair For Couples" on Amazon.